My biggest piece of advice for coming out is DO NOT rush into telling everyone you know. If your sexuality does come up in conversation, be nonchalant about it. When you downplay your queer-ness to someone who didn’t know it basically tells them, “Well DUH!” without being rude.
TURBO’s TIP: the crucial importance of TACT is always a matter of FACT!
I don’t even remember taking this GPOY ~ BUT I LOVE IT.
Sometimes I forget how sexy I am; whether I look like a SISSY CHUB or a STUDLY CUB.
I’m diagnosed with
Cyclothymia. AKA mild Bipolar Disorder/Manic Depression.
Here’s a modern parable:
A man that looks just like me, acts like me, and THINKS like me walks down the most dangerous alley in a metro area in the USA. To his left is another man who looks similar to him (he’s white and tall) that walks at the same pace as him, in the same direction, down said alley.
Suddenly a stranger 20 feet in front of them pulls a rifle out of his trenchcoat and yells, “Cease & Surrender!!” Here’s the facts about the gunman: Neither men can see the assailant’s face, but they can tell most of his body is covered in what looks like loose fleece; sweatpants and a sweatshirt with a ski-mask. Both myself and the unknown Look-a-like next to him freeze in place. The first man is carrying a knife and a metal baton (similar to a light-saber in size) in the interior of my coat and he is able to stay very calm. The Look-a-like to his left is shaking as he pulls out a medium-caliber handgun and points it at the unknown assailant. ~End of Parable
-Question: Who was the bravest man in that parable?
-My answer: The 1st man (the one with the knife/baton)
Fine, I’ll give you guys a picture of me in my red underwear. To be clear, I’M A PLUS SIZE MODEL; my mom and older brother are regular fit models. This is my favourite pic of me in my Andrew Christian’s because I’m channeling some Michael Jackson magic when I was still @ Hawai’i Pacific University!
PS- They are red underwear with a weird filter on them, I wanted to be unfiltered but it turned out great.
amiraelizabeth: Okay, I’ve seen this a lot:
“Aang was not being supportive of Katara in TSR. He was being preachy and lording his beliefs over her. Zuko was the one who knew what she really needed and was totally supportive of her.”
And to that I say bullshit.
According to many, Zuko knew what Katara needed, had faith in her to do the right thing, understood her better, and was a better friend to her than Aang. And I don’t see where he did. If he had truly been comfortable in his stance then he would not have mocked Aang in such an childish manner. He wanted to get on her good side. She blood bended someone for information and blood bending was something she was horrified by. Already right there she clearly wasn’t in the mindset to do the right thing. She wanted revenge and vengeance and she was willing to use a power tha scared and horrified her to do it.
Aang was right. His speech to her was right. And he was basing it on his own experiences. He knew how all-consuming rage and pain could be. It brought out the destructive powers of the Avatar State, it scared Katara (as she states in The Avatar State).From ASN:
Katara: “Do you remember when we were at the air temple and you found Monk Gyatso’s skeleton? It must have been so horrible and traumatic for you. I saw you get so upset that you weren’t even you anymore. I’m not saying the Avatar state doesn’t have incredible and helpful power. But you have to understand, for the people who love you, watching you be in that much rage and pain is really scary.”
What rage and pain caused him to do after losing Appa scared him so bad that he shut down and cut everyone off emotionally. He didn’t want that for her. And I think it showed just how much he did care for her. He wanted her to go on the journey, but not to lose herself to the rage and pain and what it might cause her to do. It wasn’t that he didn’t have faith in Katara. When has he ever lost faith in her? But he had a reason to be concerned. Look at how she spoke to Sokka, look at how she later blood bended (something that she hated). A constant theme in the show was how rage, pain, and destructive mindsets could change someone (even temporarily). Katara, like Aang, is a powerful being. And who better to keep Katara from heading down a destructive path than another powerful being who has hurt others and property while in revenge mode.
It is ridiculous to think Aang was lording his beliefs over her. He didn’t stop her. He even said she needed to go. He just wanted her thinking clearly and able to weigh the consequences. And yes, he encouraged her to forgive and let go. And she did take Aang’s advice - only she forgave Zuko (a notion that oddly enough Zuko mocked at the beginning of the episode.)
Me last summer in my second home town; Grand Marais. No matter how weird some of these accessories seem, I love this ensemble!